Opinion/Editorial
Karen and her husband John Stagliano are both HIV positive. Karen has been HIV positive since 1998 while John has been since 1997.
They already have a biological nine-year-old daughter when they both knew their HIV status. Luckily the child came through it healthy and wasn’t infected by her parents. No condoms or protection of any kind. Selfishness running amok without a care in the world to the health & safety of their unborn baby. Not only do both parents have HIV, but they both take very powerful drugs that has kept them as healthy as they’ve been throughout all these years.
Now Karen is four months pregnant. You can read about it on her XCritic blog.
John’s obscenity trial starts this summer. Karen’s doctor has put her on temporary bed rest but she plans on flying to be with him this summer when she’ll be six months pregnant. This is an already high-risk pregnancy. But adding flying to it all doesn’t faze anyone.
Who are these doctors that treat women who continue to get pregnant knowing full well their HIV status? Is it the money that makes these “doctors” turn a blind eye to Russian Roulette? Karen and John were extremely lucky that nothing horrific happened to their daughter. Now they want to test fate again and have another child. Children are born everyday addicted to drugs, alcohol, and nicotine. Then you have the other children born with whatever lesser STDs they contracted from their parents. Who are these doctors that keep on approving of Karen Stagliano’s pregnancies? Why does she think she’s entitled to keep on having biological children? Adopt or take in foster children. You have the money to help so many children who desperately need homes. Why would you role the dice again by having another child?
What if John is convicted of all charges and is sent to prison? Karen is then left to raise two children on her own while her husband serves out a prison sentence. Why bring another child into all of this at this time?
Is there some sort of magic pill that wealthy people take that will create healthy babies even though both parents are HIV positive? Because since no one in the Stagliano household is practicing responsibility and using some sort of protection, then maybe someone else can invest in this miracle treatment that will help all the less fortunate children who are born HIV positive every single day in this country and around the world.
Amber
April 22, 2010
Wow. You get dumber everyday. You clearly have no idea what you are talking about. Many HIV positive couples have children, healthy, well-adjusted children, without issue. Who the hell are you to tell people who should or should not procreate? Are you God? A doctor? Are you someone even mildly informed on the subject? Or are you just a judgmental, ill-informed idiot with no life? I can think of 1000 reasons people should not have children, but HIV necessarily isn’t one of them.
Does Mrs. Stagliano not deserve to be a mother because she had the extreme misfortune of contracting HIV? Should people who have cancer, herpes, HPV, congenital heart disease, obesity, hypertension, and any other life-threatening, hereditary, or sexually transmitted disease also not have children? What about the drug addicts and people with mental illness or incapacity who have children everyday? Are you going to admonish them too? Or are you just reserving your ignorant judgment for the Staglianos? Have you heard anything about their child being unhealthy or unbalanced? WHO ARE YOU?? I don’t understand you. You must live in the biggest glass house on the planet. Do some research before you publish this pointless drivel. You act like you live with them in their daily lives. And Jesse, Sandra, Janine, Jenna, etc. Know-it-all. While it’s ok to have an opinion, you act like you actually know these people. Just stop already, “Darrah”. Your skewed viewpoint is harmful and hurtful.
Alison Hart
April 22, 2010
What right do you have to pass judgment on Karen Stagliano? She is a woman you don’t know and will never meet, and yet you think you have the right to tell her that she is not fit to have a child.
As you mention, Karen is on antiretroviral drugs. There is only a 2% chance that she could pass the disease on to her child (via the CDC: http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/topics/perinatal) and I’m guessing that since their daughter is 9 years old and they haven’t had any babies in the meantime that they were using some kind of contraception and it failed. The method you mention – condoms – have a failure rate of 8-10%.
You should be ashamed of yourself for writing things like this about people whose lives you don’t know the first thing about. Karen Stagliano – and everyone else who works in the adult industry – is a person. A person who has feelings and has never done anything to you – certainly nothing that justifies spewing this kind of hate at her and her family. Try to keep that in mind the next time you decide to write a nasty editorial without doing basic research or knowing anything about the situation you have such a strong opinion about.
Walrus
April 22, 2010
Darrah,
How can you honestly be this stupid? HIV positive couples have been having children for quite awhile now.
Natal
April 23, 2010
“As you mention, Karen is on antiretroviral drugs. There is only a 2% chance that she could pass the disease on to her child ”
A 2% chance is 1 in 50. As in if the probability of being hit by a car each day was 1 in 50, you would live for a little longer than 7 weeks.
If you know that those are the odds of giving your child a mortal communicable disease that will require a lifetime of medication and probably early death it is irresponsible to have that child.
One of my co-workers sat on a jury a few years ago for a trial of a guy accused of having consesual unprotected sex with a number of women, knowing full well that he was infected with HIV and not telling them. He was charged with sexual assault and convicted. I don’t see having a child when you know you have the disease and they could be infected is any different.
hughjorgan
April 23, 2010
How do we know John’s the father?
There you go. Baby should be safe.
Kelli
April 23, 2010
Seriously? How can the baby “be safe” when the mother herself is HIV positive?
Amber
April 23, 2010
So I guess no one should have children unless it is guaranteed to be 100% healthy. I’m so glad everyone was here to tell everybody else how to live. If people worried as much about themselves and their own lives, this world wouldn’t be as messed up as it is.
How can a baby be safe when the mother is HIV positive? Look at that question. HIV isn’t the be all, end all of parenting. With all of the abusive, drug addicted, unhealthy parents giving birth everyday, I don’t understand how HIV is being singled out here. This disease can be controlled, and it no longer means an imminent death sentence. I’m sure Mrs. Stagliano is a loving parent, as I’ve never heard otherwise. Are all of the naysayers here saying she should abort? How is that any better? Worry about yourdamnselves and leave her and her baby alone. She is only doing the best she can with this hand she’s been dealt., which is with a lot more strength, class and determination than I’m sure most of you would have. Let her live her life, and you go live yours.
Darrah Ford
April 23, 2010
No I don’t live in a glass house but I’m not HIV positive and having biological children putting their lives in danger. Last I checked, there is NO CURE. The advancements have made people live longer but there still isn’t a cure. She can adopt or take in foster children.
They are both 12 and 13 years into their HIV status. This could put her body at her age in severe stress mode and add to that the upcoming trial with all that added stress. Stress alone is bad on a baby. But the mother is also HIV positive and both she and her husband take very powerful drugs that has made them live as long as they have and as healthy as they have been.
The trial could also drain them financially. What if John is convicted or pleads out. Then Karen is stuck alone with raising two children, possibly no money to pay for her treatments and raise her two kids.
They got married about a year and a half ago. Now she’s pregnant. Seems like a ploy because of John’s upcoming trial. Someone told me they probably only got married after all these years because if anything happens to him because of the trial, the daughter is finally legal and the money will automatically go to her with Karen overseeing the fund. Now a baby? Maybe a ploy so to tell a judge you can’t put him away because he now has a new baby to take care of. I highly doubt this was John’s idea. His freedom is on the line and he thinks what a great idea it would be to have another child now?
My cousin has Hepatitis and still had a baby. The family also thinks she’s a prostitute because how else could she afford all the drugs she was once on. Her daughter didn’t contract any STDs but she was very late with her speech. She’s 4 now and still can’t talk in full sentences like everyone else in her school. She’s also extremely violent. As I said, she’s only 4. Why can’t she talk normally like all the other kids her age and why is she so extremely violent? The father is now HIV positive but he seems to have contracted HIV after she was born.
I never thought John should be on trial. He’s not Max Hardcore or someone in that field. If they’re going after him of all people, whose next? Steve Hirsch?
Darrah Ford
April 23, 2010
The only industry that would be happy about a child being born to parents who are both HIV positive. An industry that only tests for three STDs but continues to work with many other STDs. Karen and John can do whatever the hell they want with other consenting adults who know the whole story. But don’t drag children into it when they never asked for any of this.
Alison Hart
April 23, 2010
1. First you say she should’ve adopted/taken in foster children. Then you say this was some kind of plan to keep John out of jail. So this was a planned pregnancy? Oh, but you doubt it was John’s idea, so Karen must’ve connived to get pregnant without his consent so that she could have a child during a tumultuous time in their family’s lives. OR, maybe their method of contraception failed.
2. What does a child with developmental problems who DOESN’T have hepatitis but DOES have a drug-user for a mother have to do with this? As far as I know, Karen doesn’t have hepatitis, but neither does your cousin’s kid, so what are you even talking about?
3. You seem to indicate that John’s movies are more like Steven Hirsch’s than Max Hardcore’s. Max was convicted because his movies contained fisting, urination and vomiting – not because he was a dickhead (which he is). Have you ever seen an Evil Angel movie? Or a Vivid movie for that matter? I suppose not or you would understand how dumb that comparison makes you look.
The bottom line here is that regardless of what you see as Karen Stagliano’s merits as a mother or a person living with HIV, writing hurtful things about her on the internet is at best ignorant and at worst mean-spirited and indicative of some kind of personal moral decay. You can justify it however you like, but in the end, you simply don’t know what you’re talking about and make yourself look more idiotic with every statement you make.
Darrah Ford
April 23, 2010
I’m not against Karen as a mother. I’m sure she’s a great mother to her daughter and both she and John are great parents. But both she and John show very poor judgment and should never have had biological children. Children are born everyday HIV positive and not just in third world countries. But here and everywhere else. There’s always that possibility.
Well the comparison between Max, John, and Steven was on the dickhead level. Yeah I know Max was convicted for making movies and not for how he treated women. So that comparison was puyrely on the dickhead level. But John is tame. So for the government to be going after him, that’s why I said even Steve Hirsch could be next.
Anonymous
May 14, 2010
Go back to school!
JAG
June 3, 2010
Wow, you seem to think that you are held harmless for spewing misinformation and hate all over the place. Karen & John Stagliano are not reckless people – rather, they are both intelligent, considerate people.
I am sure that they know quite well what they are doing and how to go about doing it. Being HIV+ is not a Badge of Dishonour nullifying someone from the right to lead a life. Any child reared by Karen Stagliano is a lucky child.
You should feel ashamed for publishing thoughts like this.
Darrah Ford
June 3, 2010
I never said being HIV positive is a badge of dishonour. I never went against the Staglianos as bad parents. I never did either of those two. I’m only against them for having a biological child because there is the chance the baby could become infected.
There’s also a chance John might go to prison. So Karen is left behind with two children and probably financially drained because of John’s trial. Both are already 12 years in being HIV positive which is already a long time. So now they decide to have another child?
Darrah Ford
June 3, 2010
I actually got banned on ADT for defending porn stars with HIV. This porn star, who for the life of me I can’t remember her name which means she was never that important, was attacking porn stars with HIV saying they should not be allowed to work behind the scenes in porn. She was also against porn stars still being allowed to work who had tested NEGATIVE. Karen came in the thread and reminded the woman how she does creampies by looking at her IAFD page. This porn star had also filmed for Evil Angel and maybe doesn’t even know John & Karen’s HIV status. Many on that post later asked why was I banned and how it was the first time they ever agreed with me on an issue. I went against the porn star and I guess due to my colorful language towards her, I was banned. I’m not against anyone who has HIV at all while that porn star wants everyone HIV positive out of the industry from even behind the scenes & people who tested negative. Someone later said if she wants people out who tested negative after unknowingly having sex with someone with HIV, that means a very large percentage currently working wouldn’t be allowed to work — 1980’s – 2004.